Thursdays and Fridays are the worse days of the week for me. Although I am not as manic about it in the last few weeks. In the beginning all I could do was watch the clock and try to imagine where Joel was on May 14 and 15. I tried and tried to map a time line of his journey. Many times I'd drive the route I thought he would have taken as I couldn't sit still alone at home. Friday, May 15th at 9:30, Joel was crossing Hwy 17 and killed instantly as he was struck by a tractor trailer. He apparently lay in a pool of blood for hours while the road was shut down and the Highway Patrol did their investigation. It was about ten-till-one when an officer pulled up in front of my house. I thought it may have been a friend of mine with an update on Joel's whereabouts. I had phoned him the night before and told him Joel was missing. I asked him to put the word out to his fellow officers. I had hoped it was him pulling up but those hopes turned instantly to dread as the officer put on his hat and got out of the patrol car. It wasn't my friend and I knew when an officer put on his hat he was there on official business The officer knocked on the door with a clipboard in hand with Joel's picture on it. He said, "Joel was in an accident. He did not make it." I began to tremble and then was too weak to stand. Panic set in. Confusion set in. I didn't know what to do. I couldn't believe this was actually happening. It seemed that time slowed. I sat down on the front step and thought there had to be a way to fix this.

I'm hoping to take my son, Brandon out this evening to shoot a hog. Joel and I bought a 7mm Browning about two months before he died so we could take up the sport. Joel aspired to be a gun smith and sighted in the rifle in just 9 shots. And to install the scope he had to file some very small screws without buggering them up. He would have been a fine gun smith. Unfortunately, that's all he got to do with the rifle. My afore mentioned officer friend has been taking us to a ranch where we can hunt hogs year-round. I think this will be our third trip. All the trips have been on a Friday. No particular reason. The first trip was good and bad. I was glad to get Brandon out of the house and doing something with him. We had just gotten our first camo hats and shirts from Bass Pro. So we were all rednecked up. My friend, Bill had brought his Son, Aaron. Aaron and Brandon hit it off and hunted together. We didn't bag anything but had a good time. And, Brandon and I were learning how to hunt. I didn't tell Brandon, but the trip required us to use Hwy 17 and go past the spot where Joel was hit. It was dark on the trip home and it began to pour rain. We approached the spot where Joel was hit. Through the headlights and rain I saw Joel run in front of us. I physically jerked in my seat and then began to cry as I imagined his crumpled body lying in the road. This sent me into a two-week long black depression. I couldn't function. I have not felt that depressed in a few weeks now. So maybe I'm on the road to recovery.